For Linda Ikeji and our Collective Lessons in Vulnerability

<br>Let me first begin this short article by stating that I don’t know Linda Ikeji personally, we aren’t close pals, and I’ve “satisfied” her only a couple of times at social events …<br>
<br>Written By:
Francesca Uriri<br>
<br>Published On:
24 Sep 2016<br>
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<br>However with all of that being stated, I also have a deep and abiding regard for her. Is that paradoxical? Perhaps. But I have actually concerned understand that you can disagree with somebody on something and still respect them. Whether you accept it or not, Linda has actually shown through her amazing journey of being a blog writer and opinion influencer, that she is a motivation to many people all over the world. She has boot strapped her method to success using a design that was when undesirable and belittled. She’s an Outlier, and handles to motivate, incite and baffle lots of all at once, and with fervour.<br>
<br>I can’t think about a lot of individuals who’ve run a modelling firm, an events company, a publication and a bunch of other companies, failed at them, and still kept pushing forward. I also don’t know of anyone else (at least not on this side of the planet), who is legally making lots of money by blogging.
[ad] I imply, before Linda, whoever thought it was possible to buy a house in Banana Island, and open a string of media-related companies gained from the profits of running a chatter blog site? If the United States of America has the “American dream,” then Linda Ifeoma Ikeji has the “Naija Dream.” Strong, relentless in its pursuit of joy and hope, and ultimately, successful. Here’s a lady who hit ground zero eventually in her life, and is back to level 100. You need to respect such grit and determination, due to the fact that as my Sapele people will say “E nor easy.”<br>
<br>Linda or “Lin-Lin” as she’s fondly called by those who are close to her turned 36 years of ages a few days back; and to mark her wedding, she posted a 14-minute long video on her blog. Within hours of her publishing this video, social media was buzzing with all sort of remarks and remarks about it – and I knew that I had to see it for myself. 3 minutes into the video, I wasn’t quite sure whether I liked it or not, due to the fact that it came off as a little insincere and scripted; plus Linda looked a little unpleasant dealing with the camera. However, something altered shortly after – I’m not even sure what. But the veneer of coolness broke, and something more warm, earthy, real and susceptible spilled out.
[advertisement] And as Linda began to discuss her failures, her desires, her relationship with God, her belief in the credibility of her dreams, her utter amazement at how her life ended up, and the affirmation that she still “plans to be around for a very long time,” something in me also gave method to the hope and inspiration that she was sharing.<br>
<br>And possibly it was a psychological minute, perhaps that thing was fleeting, however I acknowledged it, and I felt it highly. Because it was sincere, powerful and sincere. And in that one special moment, I forgot all the times I disliked Linda, or all the annoying things she had done, and in that suspended space, between my laptop computer screen and her video, I celebrated with her. I cheered her on, and I desperately wanted her to be successful.<br>
<br>So you can my inflammation when individuals took simply a couple of seconds of that video – of her wanting an amazing man for a spouse – and turned it into an event for unsightly banter, senseless rhetoric and upsetting remarks. How do you condense ALL she said, and narrow that down to just one sector of her video? What is incorrect if she honestly (and very truthfully I might include), spoke about what she wants? Is her desire for a husband somehow less valid or disgraceful because she discussed it in the open? If she had spoken about additional growing her business or purchasing another house – would those statements be fulfilled with derisive comments? Is there not a peaceful strength and dignity in such a guileless program of vulnerability? When people honestly and honestly open up themselves, the least we can do, the least we ought to do as humans is to accord them the respect and self-respect that they should have.<br>